If I may, I’d like to use this song to help illustrate my point for this post.
I hope this actually plays, but if not here are the lyrics I want to highlight
You can never fall too hard, so fast, so far, that you can’t get back what you lost, where you are.
It’s never too late, so bad, so much, that you can’t change who you are.
You can change who you are.
I like the whole song, but the chorus is the point of it, naturally.
What I really like about this song is that it acknowledges that someone might want ot change who they are.
There’s a rare movie out ether even now, and there used to be scores of them, where a main character will admit that they want to change who they are. Take Black Widow as perhaps the most famous superhero example.
Not that change isn’t discussed. Usually it’s called getting over it, or moving on, or being true to yourself.
But what of the now-rare character who doesn’t like themselves? who wants to be different?
I don’t mean they are just unconfident. I mean the character who has flaws that keep ruining their life and they want it to stop.
These don’t have to be evil people, just human.
I’ve never been overly fond of the heroes with fatal flaws, it annoys me, but I wonder if our heroes who lack human flaws are always wise.
Not because I have a problem with good examples, but because I see a missing middle ground. Either we love good examples, or inexplicably we love the bad guys, but we don’t love the ones who are in the middle and trying to decide. Well, really we don’t love the good guys who still do bad things.
Heck, if fictional heroes did as many bad things in a movie as most of us do every day, we’d hate them.
But this isn’t about fiction really. I’m just referring to the missing idea of change in our culture. The lack of accountability. The obsession with being so true to ourselves that we are true to the worst parts of ourselves. Your big mouth, for instance. Or our anger.
Our laziness how about?
You know, the non-glamours stuff no one likes to admit.
Maybe it’s just me, but one thing that always bugged me about sitcoms and stuff is how little always like that are just played for laughs. Like we’re just supposed to accept that people will always choose to be lazy, or tell “white” lies, or whatever.
In real life, we usually don’t like that stuff about ourselves.
We’ve all done stuff we’re ashamed of. Even me. I try to forget that stuff, but I know I’ve done it. I don’t like thinking about it.
You know why I use the words “we all” a lot? Because I think that real truth applies to all of us. To all humanity.
We all suck.
But we all can change.
That’s the point of the song.
We have to want to change though. That doesn’t always mean we will, but we have to start there.
To me, one of the best hopes we have is that we can change. Most of our pain in life is because we’re messed up. Maybe someone else messed us up, maybe we messed up ourselves, whichever it is we can only get better if we change.
We can’t just decide to change of course, the song is also about how Jesus can change us. That is part of the whole point after all.
And that’s all for now, until next time–Natasha.
P. S. (I might be posting a review of Dawn of Justice soon because I’m planning to finally watch it, so all my superhero fans out there watch for that.)