To add to this list of things going wrong in my life, our microwave is busted, and we live off leftovers and homecooked meals in my house.
Oh well, I guess we’ll have to rediscover the art of reheating on the stove or oven until we can get a new one. Maybe by the end of the week.
It’s funny how stuff piles up isn’t it? C. S. Lewis observed that when things begin to go right they generally keep going right for a while, the same when things begin to go wrong. It’s like our life is a pendulum. The old saying for it goes “it never rains but it pours.”
With a slight dying down of my physical symptoms, my depression and anxiety and intrusive thoughts re-surged, this seems to happen every time, the two really seem connected.
But every time, I am starting to reach out a little more. To more people. Broadening my range of who I will rely on for help. It’s not easy for me to do that, as I’ve been burned many times even by Christians, by people who say they want to help but never call you or want to talk it out.
This is not an indictment against the Church itself, I blame this culture of distance and isolation more, we’ve forgotten not just how to support each other, but I honestly think we’ve forgotten what people even need from each other. Why else do so many self help books try to explain it to us?
It’s funny, I bet people from centuries ago would find it ridiculous. We humans have always advised each other about what others need, but we used to keep it to a basic religious philosophy with personal experience, not thousands upon thousands of options.
I think one of the only true differences between this age and the past is the options.
It’s actually interesting if you study communication throughout history, you’ll note how as it increases, so do people’s options worldview-wise. The invention of the newspaper and pamphlets basically was the reason the Revolutionary War was fought and won.
The telegram made the Railroad more effective and safer, and made War News easier to relay over long distances in a short time, changing how we fought wars.
And now computers and internet have made knowledge about anything and everything accessible to people who are barely literate.
The true change throughout the world is the swapping of ideas more easily and readily. You can see it as a good or a bad thing, but it’s a fact, and it’s not likely to go away.
I almost think this crisis has got us all thinking way too much on a global or national scale. If you think about how miserable other people are all the time, how can you ever let yourself be happy? Anne Frank wrote of that in her Diary while in hiding.
Personally, I only feel more depressed when anyone alludes to COVID. It disheartens me to be reminded of how everyone supposedly is discouraged and depressed.
I get the same feeling when I watch anime, maybe you other weebs have experienced this, but is anime not the most depressing crap ever? Even the happy ones can be depressing.
I think it’s the unfinished feeling of their storytelling, no problem even feels truly resolved by the end of the story, the message is generally, “they’ll just keep going with the same problems, for all eternity. Gleaning happiness briefly form others, but never forgetting their sorrow.”
Come on, that literally could be a tagline of an anime or manga.
Western stories are entirely different. Something gets resolved at the end, whether it’s sad, like most European stories, or happy like English or American stories usually are. At the end, you can say as Jesus said “It is finished.”
Oh sure, you know theoretically that the characters will live on in the fictional setting, but the story you need to know is over.
I think that’s why there’s arguably more fanfiction about anime and other Asian mediums, at least more that is constructing a cohesive storyline, and not just having fun with it and trying a few different settings out. I mean the 200+ chapter longs stuff. (The kind I write)
All my longest fan fics have been about anime or anime inspired shows. Save for one, but that one was done more sporadically in some ways.
There is just something so irrevocably depressing about the idea of going on forever trying and never quite succeeding, like a bird in the water toy.
I think anime is addictive for that reason, because it never feels finished, people always want more, most probably don’t even realize they are waiting for that ending. That’s why weebos hop from anime to anime, trying to find one that satisfies that need for a good ending.
Yeah, I know, one year as a weeb and I’m an expert? Maybe I’m wrong, but I know the affect it’s had on me is exactly what I’m describing, I am never satisfied, and if I like the ending, I still want it topped by something else, I still have something to be desired.
Unlike stuff in my country. I have wanted plenty of sequels for my favorite movies, but that has never made me unsatisfied with the original. Not like anime.
I imagine plenty of weeboos would be mad at me for knocking anime in this manner, or they’d sheepishly agree with me, sometimes they are surprisingly honest or self deprecating. They are also by and large, depressed.
I know maybe two who aren’t, at least I haven’t heard form them that they are, but I’m not sure.
And the fandoms have to be some of the most depressed sounding people I’ve ever heard.
Why am I bringing it up? Maybe you alredy guessed I see a connection between this and how depressed young people are in general.
Oh, I’m not blaming anime, though a lot of it is not helping. I think youth are drawn to it because they already are discontent with their lives. But I think anime magnifies it, I’ve noticed it much more since I started watching it.
The truth is, I don’t think young people actually mind being depressed that much. They are so used to it, it’s popular to gripe about it on line, and if you are the rare person who isn’t (not an anime person definitely) you feel no need to talk about it. Misery loves company, right? Contentment is quiet.
I never feel the need to write about it when I feel happy, because I am just happy, it’s when I am suffocated by sadness or fear that I need an escape.
I never am clear on what I’m escaping from exactly, a lot of empty possibilities that will never happen? Myself? Reality?
I got to say, young people are more afraid of spectral threats than we are of real ones.
We’re hiding out form the trouble in the world, the possibility of the apocalypse, the looming threat of society’s well being being left to us and the fact that we are not as a whole, the last bit prepared for that.
I’m trying to figure this out because I want not only to be saved from this horrible trend of depression and discouragement in my age group, but I want to be able to pull others out of it. I get heavy hearted when I think of the amazing, sweet, kind people who feel like they are crap because they have depression and anxiety and mood swings.
I wonder if I was the only one who struggled with this, would I feel better? It would suck to be a loser (as I’m sure I’d feel like I was) but it’d be encouraging to know most people aren’t like that and there might be a way to be normal.
Jesus said “I did not come to call the righteous, but those who know they are sinners.” and “it is not healthy people who need a doctor” But being healthy is meant to be nomral.
(Is it even normal anymore? Seems everyone has a diagnosis of something nowadays. A lot of it is neurotic too.)
Well, I am not trying to add to the depression. I want to suggest that a lot of it is just… false.
Not that the feelings aren’t real, of course they are, but I know half of what I get depressed over is not reality. It’s what I fear my reality is, or will be. But in a moment of clarity, I know it’s not true, and probably never will be true.
Getting depressed over how dark the world is is easy, but it’s not based in Reality.
The World is Dark, the world has been dark since the fall, but people have never derived their joy from the world, if they were smart, but form each other and from God and from doing good work. Solomon wrote that that is the best thing to take Joy in.
Everything in the world is vanity, without the Love of God to give it meaning.
The most lasting man made things are the ones that reflect God’s Nature the most. Beauty, Simplicity, Courage, Glory, even Terror, all feelings God invokes in us, and symbols of those things have stayed with us.
I don’t write to you as someone who’s got this figured out, I’m seeking it. I’m trying to find how to Live. I am sure at least it involves getting outside myself and my own head, forgetting what I think I know about coping with my life, and embracing what God actually says.
All of which seems impossible, but God is a God of the impossible.
In the words of many Christian songs, I am reaching the end of myself. I am running out of my own ideas. And whenever I really do finish, I think I am gong to find God waiting there, and it’ll be clear at last, what I only got glimpses of up till this point, it’ll be in full color.
I must be so close now, if I can even guess that’s the end of all this.
I think if I had that revelation, I would not need medicine, or therapy, because those are for people who have not yet found it, but are still looking.
I am waiting to me other people my age who feel this way, who will encourage me to think that way, who are not willing to give up and succumb to the depression of the world.
I get really tired of it you know, not just of being miserable, but of thinking of what a nuisance it is.
I literally get anxiety about driving the new car I wanted for ages and was so grateful to get, yet I can’t take it out many days without feeling afraid I’ll crash it, either on purpose or on accident.
That really ticks me off, because it’s a gift, and I want to enjoy it, and how dare the devil try to ruin that for me.
I go to hang out with kids and I feel sick, or I feel sad or out of it, even if I felt fine beforehand. and I just get so freaking ticked!
I wish this anger was enough to propel me out of this mindset, but anger does not destroy fear. I can still feel that chain to it, even if at times I almost forget it.
Hannah Hurnard describes that well in “Hinds Feet on High Places.”
And anyone who’s been set free knows that you know when you know that you are free, when that last shred of hesitation has gone from your mind. When you have stopped drawing back.
Maybe it takes a thousand baby steps outside your cage before the door really slams shut behind you.
I don’t know.
But I am not content to just get a patched up version of wholeness. Where I can function, but not flourish. I know I could probably have that, if I took pills, and was willing to be selfish the rest of my life, always taking, never giving except when it didn’t feel like a risk, I could take the easy route.
I could have gone in for that a long time ago, I’ve considered it, and while it may be a step in the future, too many people park there who don’t need to.
I still want to me mad enough to believe God actually does heal us completely, and set us free. I know people He’s done it for, I’ve read the stories, I want a piece of that. Why should I settle for less than the Best?
Why should I settle for less than what God would give me, if only I would receive it?
Oh, but I do.
You all don’t know how often I choose to feel worse than I have to. I’ve done that for many many years, and been warned about it before. It’s sad.
And I want to stop doing that. I’m tired of treating myself like I deserve that. I may not be able to fix myself, but I don’t have to sabotage the help I do get.
Lastly, if you’ve read this far, here’s a fact about me I haven’t mentioned here before.
Natasha is my pen name, but my first name means “Joy” or “Rejoicing.”
It’s always struck me as ironic, from a very young age, how I never felt happy. If I did, it scared me. It wasn’t joy.
Someone even once told me that, they were one of my peers. And my father used to mock me for it all the time.
I’ve experienced joyous times since becoming saved, but many times my name still felt entirely inappropriate, yet people have prophesied for me constantly throughout the years that I will have so much joy.
And year after year of not seeing it, I wonder, “what the heck?”
And now, dealing with serious depression, anciety and helath problems, I want to laugh.
But… I heard at an event I was at that “if you struggle with depression, you’re meant to walk in Great Joy, if you struggle with fear, you’re meant to walk in Great Faith.”
Supposedly, one of my gifts is Great Faith.
Funny, isn’t it?
But at some pint, ladies and gents, you have to decide what you believe. Yourself, your family, your fears… or God.
I fight it, but at the end of it all, I have always chosen God because I know that is right. Paul or Peter said “Let God be true and every man a liar” (meaning not that all men are liars, but that that it is better to think that than for a second to think God could lie, because then we’re all lost).
So, I will keep doing that, and keep you posted for whenever my breakthrough finally comes. Until next time, stay honest–Natasha
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What you are talking about in regards to even Christians being flaky, I think a lot of it is due to the decrease in social capital in society. I remember learning about this long ago from the book Bowling Alone by Robert Putnam, and so I’ve held the belief ever since that as media and entertainment become more prevalent in people’s lives, they will become more isolated from society as they have less desire to go out and form social bonds with others, and create what he calls “social capital”, which is the willingness to go out and do things with other people, volunteer, get involved in ones neighbourhood / community, et cetera.
And Christians of course are also victims of this. I know I am personally, although I’m trying to change that. I think this new standard in society, which boils down to “go to work, go home, consume entertainment, sleep and repeat” is very dangerous. And the isolation, lack of social bonds, et cetera is one of the reasons why we now have an entire generation of people who have social anxiety and other issues. People just don’t feel comfortable around others anymore, and people are less willing to engage with others.
In the old days, people used to have a support structure that went something like this:
Immediate family > extended family > close friends > church / neighbourhood > town / city > state / province > federal government
But now, that’s no longer the case. Now it’s more like:
Immediate family > federal government.
Or for many people with familial issues:
> federal government.
And so we have an entire generation of people now that instead of trying to make change on a smaller, more localized level, just give up and complain that the federal government isn’t doing enough to help. We have people who just immediately demand help from the federal government, where 100 years ago they would have received support from a more localized level, like their church. It’s no wonder that every year the government grows bigger and bigger, taking up more and more money, and becoming more corrupt in the process.
All of this because of a sharp decline in social capital due to the rise of media and entertainment in peoples’ lives. Probably not the only reason, but I think it’s a big one.
Anyways, sorry for the essay haha.
Your posts are very thought provoking, so I can’t help myself!
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Thanks, I am glad someone finds them thought provoking.
I think you’re right about the social structure, personally I didn’t have social anxiety after I grew out of being shy, but I notice with more time spent online, it gets harder to talk to people and my head is full of shows when I do. Maybe that’s why fandoms have grown so much and people only feel comfortable talking about shows, or complaining about politics. Sad really, but perhaps if we became aware of this, we could take steps to change it.
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It’s hard to say. Before technology, people were more engaged because they had no choice. Doing things together WAS the entertainment. Things like bowling, sports, book clubs, street barbecues. They weren’t able to communicate with anyone in the world, so they were stuck with the people around them. But that’s what would foster a community.
These days none of that is necessary, we can sit alone at a computer or on a phone and interact with no one. It’s a pretty drastic change. Obviously some people were still like that, reading books or whatever on their own, but many (likely most) people wouldn’t have been. So it’s hard to say how one could revive that sense of community between people. Church is the closest thing I think you could find these days to something that resembles it.
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I looked at it, I liked it, it seems like a fun thing to write about, I hope someday I can do travel posts on my blog also (assuming I found the right blog). Thanks for reading and commenting 🙂